SOLVING MY PEOPLE PUZZLE: PART 1 INSTRUCTIONS
This learning activity (i.e., Parts 1 and 2) will provide resources for describing, developing, and managing your personality (i.e., relational style: thinking, doing, feeling, and relating to others) against the backdrop of various people puzzles (e.g., extrovert/introvert, project/people oriented, thinking/feeling/doing, etc.). Interestingly, our interpersonal arena could be described as a bumper-human world as various behavioral pressures continually bless, bother, and bruise us. Understanding that “personality pressure” is a felt experience that often reveals what makes us tick and get ticked off with different people empowers us to become personality-, emotionally-, and relationally-wise. It should come as no surprise to realize that how we think, feel, and relate differently influences our relationships, even the people-helping relationship. Keep in mind that it really does not matter what your personality is. What matters most is that you learn to control it through appropriate resources and best-fit strategies rather than allowing your personality to be in control.
Overview of Part 1
• In Part 1, the student will use assigned readings, assessments (i.e., 360° Interviews; Interpersonal Communication Test; Leader/Professional DISC Profile), and 2 questions to Describe the “Me I See” and, in light of “Me’s” strengths (i.e., characteristics of a mature relational style; Carbonell, 2008, ch. 8) and short-comings (i.e., characteristics of an immature relational style; Carbonell, 2008, ch. 8), Develop a picture of the “Me I Want to See” (i.e., visualize student’s personality controlled/managed in the process of moving towards God’s best version of Me in Christ).
§ For example, a student learns of a short-coming in his “I/C’s relational style” (e.g., DISC Graph 2 assessment identification of the Me I See): A “know-it-all” attitude that has been viewed by others as invasive and inconsiderate due to his interruptive-corrective communication pattern (i.e., immature I/C relational style). Therefore, his task is to develop the picture of a maturing “Me I-C’s” with tongue and attitude under control. Simply put, the student’s aspiration may be: The “Me I Want to See” is empathetic toward and considerate of the person on the other side of “Me.”
• In Part 1, the student will also describe a Hallmark Purpose* that will govern his/her relational style (i.e., Me in the midst of relationships: God, self, and others). This purpose will shape “human-beingness” which in turn guides “human-doingness.”
*A hallmark purpose is a governing influence that helps people on the other side of “Me”, see and remember Jesus in “Me”. It is a distinguishing mark that gives a life its stamp of authenticity. For example, ‘This believer is committed to being an imitator of Christ (i.e., imitate God as Christ did; Eph. 5: 1, 2) and through a lifestyle of imitation, aspires to influence others toward Christ and subsequent imitation (i.e., illustrate Christ; 1 Cor. 11:1).’ See SMPP Part 1: Question 2, HMP Tip for more details.
• In Solving My People Puzzle Part 2: The student should anticipate applying insights from Part 1 to a counseling relationship (i.e., a pre-determined care-seeker from the case study—Crossroads: A Story of Forgiveness; see Module/Week 1, Reading & Study) and a mentor/mentee relationship (i.e., identify & solicit participation from a specific mentor).
Student will complete this assignment in 2 parts; feedback and assessment will be provided through 2 submissions of Solving My People Puzzle (SMPP). The following outline identifies essential components of the SMPP Part 1: Describing My Relational Style Report.
(Solving My People Puzzle: Phase 1 is due by 11:59 p.m. (ET) on Sunday of Module/Week 2.)
Template Components of Part 1: Describing My Relational Style Report
• Correct file name for word document (i.e., PACO500_SMPP1_YourInitials)
• Cover Sheet
• Abstract (current APA format)
• Table of Contents
• Introduction (Do not use heading. The 1st paragraph is assumed to be the introduction.)
• 360° Interviews (i.e., at least 2; see Appendix A)
• Interpersonal Communication Skills Test Snapshot (use the Snipping Tool or the Print Screen function to capture image snapshot)
• Snapshots of DISC Dot Charts (Graph 1-This is Expected of Me and Graph 2 – This is Me)
• SMPP Part 1 Questions/Answers; consider using an annotated outline approach (i.e., bulleted full sentence explanations grounded appropriately in our materials through citations/References; for Annotated Outline details, see Discussion Board Guidelines and Tips and Final Project Instructions)
• Conclusion (i.e., the “So What?!” or closing argument of your study)
• References (at least 6 sources will be cited; place References on its own page)
o AxiomSoftware: DiSC Profile Interpretations
o How My Graph Became a Dot
o How to Solve the People Puzzle
o Professional/Leadership DISC Profile
o Why Don’t We Listen Better?
• Grading Rubric (on its own page)
SMPP Part 1 Instructions
v On the first day of Module/Week 2, email the 360° Interviews (the interview template is located in Course Content>Assignment Instructions; see Appendix A for sample) to at least 2 people that know you well enough to answer the interview questions. Request interviews to be returned within 2 days through email attachment.
• Copy/paste all typed interviews into your “Solving My People Puzzle: Part 1: Describing My Relational Style Report” with sufficient organizational clarity to aid reader assessment. This will likely require at least 2 pages.
v Self-administer the online Interpersonal Communication Skills Test (see Appendix B sample) and use the Snipping Tool or the Print Screen function (see below) to copy/paste the SnapShot report on to the page following your 360° Interviews.
* If you are not familiar with capturing an image from a website or an online document, there are 2 methods you may use:
1. Snipping Tool: This is installed by default on all Windows 7 and Windows Vista operating systems. You can find it by going to Start Menu à All Programs à Accessories à Snipping Tool.
• To “snip” part of your screen:
§ Open the Snipping Tool (Your screen will go “whiteish”
§ Use the cursor to drag a box around what you want “snipped”
§ When you release your mouse button it will open the “snip” in a new window
§ You can save as a file, copy, or perform other options
2. Print Screen: This allows you to take a screenshot of everything that is on your screen
• To take a screenshot
§ Press the “PrtSc” button on your keyboard (This “copies” your screen)
§ Open a blank Microsoft Word document
§ Click the “Paste” button
§ Save the document
• Online registration is required to take the 10-minute interpersonal communication skills test (25 questions) at the following website: http://testyourself.psychtests.com/testid/2151
• The free snapshot of results provided is sufficient to develop talking points in the “Solving My People Puzzle” (SMPP) assignment. If desired, a full report with interpretation is available for purchase (online report $4.95; an additional PDF version is $1.95 extra; price subject to change). Credit card or PayPal accepted.
v Self-Administer the online Professional/Leadership DISC Profile (Expanded Version-Standard) from Uniquely You Resources, Inc.
• Locate the assessment login code in How to Solve the People Puzzle.
§ NOTE: As stated in the Syllabus, this text must be purchased NEW (i.e., Paperback format) in order to have a live assessment code from Uniquely You Resources.
• Go to www.uniquelyyou.com. On the left hand side of the page, click on Code Login, enter your code and submit. If you have previously taken an online profile with Uniquely You, simply login. If you have not, click on new user and set up a new account; save your login information for future use. This should take you directly to your survey.
§ Make sure to give careful attention to assessment instructions. Typically, the directions ask that you answer all questions with what you are MOST often and LEAST often like under pressure.
§ For example, as a ministerial student handling responsibilities in the midst of life, describe what you are like most of the time and what you are least like most of the time. Do not answer based on what you want to be or what you think others want you to be; just answer according to what you are like most of the time and least like most of the time. See example questions below and notice you must choose one response in each column.
§ You will see two buttons at the bottom of each assessment page. Do NOT select the SAVE button – the assessment will think you have completed it. Instead, select the CONTINUE button! DO NOT USE YOUR BROWSER BUTTONs.
§ After completing the assessment, save it as a PDF to your desktop.
§ If you have any questions or problems, please contact Uniquely You @ 800-501-0490, Monday-Friday, 9-5 EST or Laura Long @ email@example.com. Do not ask Laura to convert documents or create charts or screen shots for you.
• Capture a screenshot of the Dot Charts for Graph 1 “This is Expected of Me” and Graph 2 “This is Me” and paste onto page after your Interpersonal Communication Skills Test Snapshot. See example snapshots of both Dot Graphs below:
v Once assessment information has been collected and placed in template, concisely answer the following questions. Support (i.e., cite) your answers by remaining closely connected to the course readings and assessment information within APA research-based guidelines (i.e., use in-text citations and References).
SMPP Part One Questions
1. Who is the “Me I See”?
Before attempting to answer this question, take a few moments and view the following links to gain an overall understanding of the DISC:
To learn more about how your behavioral pressure is influenced by priorities, reflect on How My Graph Became a Dot: http://www.inscapepublishing.com/downloads/HowMyGraphBecameaDot_AT.pdf
Concisely describe the “Me I See” in DISC Graph 2 (i.e., This is Me). This description should identify your primary DISC style and delineate a basic overview. Use Carbonell’s (2008) How to Solve the People Puzzle to include insights about strengths (evidence of maturation) and shortcomings (evidence of lacking maturation). Examine all chapters related to your primary DISC index, especially the Case Studies.
Further insight may be gained by entering your High Factor dot plots in the following DISC profile interpretation link and click Interpret: http://www.axiomsoftware.com/disc/interpretations/interactive-guide-to-disc-profile-interpretation.php
Finally, your description of the Me I See should integrate insights about your interpersonal patterns (i.e., helpful & harmful) from the 360s and Petersen’s (2007) Why Don’t We Listen Better? (e.g., flat-brain tango tendencies; communication insights, traps, techniques, etc). Make sure the description of the Me I See is a description without judgment or critique. Simply seek to understand, rather than fix.
2. What Hallmark Purpose (** see HMP Tip) will govern your personality (i.e., relational style)?
a) Identify a crisp hallmark purpose (i.e., 1 concise sentence). For example, ‘This student wants to be an imitator of Christ.”
b) Concisely describe the purpose guiding the development and management of your relational style. For example, ‘To be an imitator of Christ, this student must purpose to possess his soul (i.e., entire person) through a process of training-in new life-style patterns (i.e., attitudes, actions, emotions, communicating and connecting style) that help those on the other side of “me” to remember the Jesus in “me”.’
c) Provide a truth-based rationale for choosing this hallmark purpose (i.e., ground the rationale in the readings & Scripture through appropriate citation; no more than 3 sentences). For example, ‘According to Kollar (2011), this student’s relational style cannot be developed and managed until he aligns his thinking with God’s intention (p. 49). According to Inspiration, it is God’s intention that this believer make every effort (i.e., exercise and develop; 2 Peter 1: 5, 10, 15) to imitate God as Christ demonstrated (i.e., be imitators; Eph. 5:1) so that those on the other side of “me” are influenced toward Christ (i.e., Paul inspired others to imitation; 1 Cor. 11:1).’
**HMP Tip: How to Construct your Hallmark Purpose
A hallmark purpose is a governing influence that helps people on the other side of “Me”, see and remember Jesus in “Me”. It is a distinguishing mark that gives a life its stamp of authenticity. For example, ‘This believer is committed to being an imitator of Christ (i.e., imitate God as Christ did; Eph. 5: 1,2) and through a lifestyle of imitation, aspires to influence others toward Christ and subsequent imitation (i.e., illustrate Christ; 1 Cor. 11:1).’
Our Lord’s hallmark purpose in life was to be the ultimate glorifier of His Father by seeking, serving, and saving the lost (e.g., Inspiration Considerations: Mark 10:45; Lk. 19:10; Jn. 17:4). His discussion of doing in Scripture often moved from “being-ness” to “doing-ness” (e.g., …whoever wants to be (i.e., do great)…must be (i.e., a servant)…” Mark 10:35–45).
• If a hallmark purpose is too general and focused on doing, it will not BE specific enough to assist in “Becoming Who You Want to Be”.
• Consider the hallmark purposes of a few spiritual formation experts: “I am committed to being an imitator of Christ in every area of my life, especially as a considerate husband” (Dr. Ron Hawkins; personal conversation) or as Dan Doriani (2001) stated, “I am committed to becoming a man after God’s heart, especially as a considerate husband” (The Life of a God-Made Man) or as John Piper (2006) stated, “If God is to be glorified in my life, then I must become satisfied in Him” (A Godward Life) or as Ken Boa (2001) simply stated, “…to be a lover and servant of God and others” (Conformed to His Image).
• If a hallmark purpose is crystal clear, micro-purposes are easily created and managed by its influence. Avoid setting your sights on the work; target being the worker that pleases his/her Lord in the midst of relationships.
3. Who is the “Me I want to See”? (Reflect on what you have gleaned from Q1 & Q2)
– Develop a crisp picture of the “Me I want to See” (e.g., ‘As an imitator of Christ, this man wants to be a considerate husband.’)
– Explain how the hallmark purpose’s governing influence assists in the development of the picture of the “Me I Want to See”. Develop the picture without any action plan discussion as it belongs in Solving My People Puzzle Part 2 (i.e., this is not about fixing a problem but picturing its absence).
Against the backdrop of the example above (see “e.g.,”), a former PACOneer stated: ‘The governing influence of this writer’s hallmark purpose helped to check his high CS behavioral pressure (Carbonell, 2008, p. 303). In reality, his “DSc” wife has proven many times over that she can do a project correctly; yet, like a malfunctioning automaton, this husband has a tendency to ask if she did this or did that. This lover of her soul does not mean to be insulting or intimate that he does not trust her to do a job well, but she perceives it that way. Bottom line, the wife views this behavior as being inconsiderate.’
Thankfully, the student’s hallmark purpose became a mid-wife to a micro-purpose and set the stage for him to become a considerate husband. Under the influence of this purpose, the Spirit used Inspiration (i.e., noticeable sweet reasonableness; Phil. 4: 5) to remind the husband that God intends for him to relax, flex, and allow a completed project to be enjoyed rather than inspected. The pursuit of the imitation of Christ, developed a picture that was in sharp contrast to his former thera-noxious (Petersen, 2007, p. 212) CS pattern.
Appendix A: 360° Interview Survey Sample
360° INTERVIEW 1: BARNEY
Assessments used in this course are helpful tools for understanding how a person tends to think, feel, and make decisions; yet, more information is needed to fully understand one’s actual, observable, behavior. A completed 360° Interview provides a student with fresh insight from those who know him/her well. It also provides a way to monitor his/her relational growth and development. A student has asked you to answer the following questions. Your answers do not have to be long, just clear and concise. If more room is needed, continue typing until all questions are answered to your satisfaction. To help this student, complete his/her assignment in timely fashion; please return this document within 2 days of receipt by email attachment.
1) What would you tell [Andy] if [s/he] asked you the following question: “What is it like to be on the other side of me?”
Andy is approachable and helpful but I think he is so much of a people pleaser that he has trouble completing tasks. When a task he has committed to complete approaches its deadline…mostly unfinished, he then becomes so hyper-focused that he will ignore and/or snap at people. His behavior is quite a conundrum at times.
2) How does [Andy] typically interact with other people? Can you think of a recent example?
Caring, considerate, and very honest (sometimes too honest, maybe). But his care for others and genuine desire to help people in a deep way is the predominate thing here. For example, Andy just spent a whole day consoling and doing fun things with/for a friend of his who had just been dumped by his long term girlfriend. Originally, he had the day off to do work and catch up on his own needs, but instead spent the day making his friend happy and secure (to the best degree he could).
3) Have you ever been in a situation where you saw [Andy] take on new tasks or roles? Describe this situation and what [s/he] did?
Andy always takes on new tasks and roles, and gets very involved in them (again, sometimes to the extreme, but overall it works greatly in everyone’s favor)! For example, Andy took the initiative to start a little gathering with close friends and family to discuss emergency preparation and survival tactics/needs for incidents such as natural disasters, food/water shortages, etc. This was/is helpful for many, extremely relevant to the issues going on right now in society/globally, and a great way to get good communication going among those you care about.
4) What has been a particularly demanding goal for [Andy] to achieve?
For Andy, slowing down probably. NOT being so much of an over-achiever or filling up every second of time with goals and tasks, not leaving much room for creativity or the flexibility of life. A particular goal…I don’t know, maybe finishing his many unfinished college degrees and getting them out of the way.
5) When you observe [Andy], which of the following pictures come to mind?
LION ☐ BEAVER ☒ OTTER ☒ GOLDEN RETRIEVER ☐
He is probably a beaver or an otter. Andy is playful and intelligent like an otter but also extremely industrious and goal-oriented like a beaver. I would probably say more of a beaver than an otter!
(Check the appropriate word(s) that best describes him/her and explain why this picture came to mind. The following web site explains how these pictures describe personality patterns: http://weirdblog.wordpress.com/2007/02/22/personality-types-lion-beaver-otter-and-golden-retriever/ last accessed Feb. 1, 2013)
Appendix B: Interpersonal Communication Skills Test Sample
Online registration is required to take the 10 minute interpersonal communication skills test (25 questions) at the following website: http://testyourself.psychtests.com/testid/2151
A free snapshot of results is provided and sufficient to develop talking points in the “Solving My People Puzzle” assignment. A full report with interpretation is available for purchase (online report $4.95; an additional PDF version is $1.95 extra; price subject to change). Credit card or PayPal accepted.
Interpersonal Communication Skills SnapShot sample
Your results indicate that you are extremely adept at interpreting other people’s words and actions and seeing things from their perspective, which likely results in very few misunderstandings. You seem to realize that empathy is an essential part of good interpersonal skills and therefore, will do your best to place yourself in other people’s shoes in order to better understand them. You can generally get a good sense of what others are thinking and will likely adjust yourself accordingly if the people you’re conversing with seem confused or perhaps uncomfortable. Good job!
MAIN BODY OF THE WORK MUST BE SEVEN EXCLUDING COVER PAGE, ABSTRACT AND REFERENCES.
Carbonell, M. (2008). How to solve the people puzzle: Understanding personality patterns. Blue Ridge, GA: Uniquely You Resources. ISBN: 9781888846447.
[Note: Buy a NEW paperback, not Used or in Kindle format; only the new paperback format will have the required assessment code.]
• chs. 2–6, 8–9
Kollar, C. A. (2011). Solution-focused pastoral counseling (2nd ed.). Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan. ISBN: 9780310329299.
• chs. 4–7
Petersen, J. C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships. Lincoln City, OR: Petersen Publications. ISBN: 9780979155901.
• chs. 3–24
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